If your family, relatives, friends know you are planning a wedding they may be asking you ‘What can I do to help?’ Well…glad you asked! Helping out is a wonderful way for family/ friends to feel important, involved, and special, and it is a great way for you to delegate a few things from your to do list. My first suggestion is if someone comes to you with a specific offering of something they want to do – take them up on it, or redirect them to something similar. They are clearly invested in their offering to bring it to your attention, so make the most of it (unless it is in poor taste, this is your day after all). Also try to keep track of who is asking and who is friends with who. If a few ladies are friends it's a good idea to assign their clique to the same task like to come early to decorate the house, or plan a bridal shower, chances are they will easily coordinate within themselves and get the job done. You can mix and match friends to get things done too, and it would be a good idea to put one friend in charge so that roles are clear and everyone can enjoy the ride. And of course, the obvious, play to people’s strengths. Match creative, social people with things like decorating and problem solving. Match more serious and efficient people to tasks that need organization like taking the ceremony supplies to the ceremony and making sure vendors are running on time. If someone always runs late, don’t put that person in charge of getting you to the ceremony on time. You will be busy, your mom will be busy, it is your friends and relatives who will really be able to help when the big day comes, so take them up on their offer and get them involved early. Happy planning!
Engagements are an exciting time – families are coming together, parents may be meeting for the first time. It is fun to have the spotlight on you and what you want for your ‘big day’. There are traditions to consider, relatives to involve, religious and legal requirements to adhere to, and at the center of it all is the happy couple. Groom and Bride. One piece of advice as the expectations for the wedding ceremony and celebrations are being discussed is that the bride and groom should stay in the middle and be the middle men in these conversations. It sounds attractive to simply let the parents and in laws sit down and sort out what traditions each of them feel bound to follow, however each family has its own communication style. Perhaps one set of parents is talkative and joking, and the other set is more somber and to-the-point. If you leave these two sets of parents in the same conversation and expect your wedding plans to be sorted out when you come back, you will most likely find both sets a little frustrated by each other and instead of having all of the decisions made you will have a little friction to deal with. If you think about it, you’ll realize that your parents are much more likely to compromise with their child than they are to compromise with a couple they recently met. It can be a little annoying to have to be in the middle of every conversation, but it is an important part of keeping the peace between different families. Groom should talk to his parents, Bride should talk to hers, and Groom and Bride should find a compromise and then go back to their parents with the decision.
I'm sharing some tips, tricks, and best practices to help you get the most out of your wedding planning.